Often we hear old people talk about “high school sweethearts” or referring to their loved ones as their “soulmate”.
This is a love connection that some young people might never live to experience with all the societal standards that they conformed to when it comes to dating.
We live in a generation where everyone loves the idea of falling in-love and yet many but few are willing to make the sacrifices needed to build a relationship.
In a world where being loyal to one partner seems like missing out on the norm of having multiple partners.
Everything about dating in this day and age is about acquiring something from your partner & most definitely not about building with them.
From couples being together because they look good physically but have absolutely nothing in common,perhaps we should call such relationships “popular demand affairs.“
It’s unfortunate that some young people date because they are afraid of being alone the irony is that they end up feeling alone in their relationships.
Did they tell me this? Perhaps not, but the only logical explanation for cheating is that one is not content with their relationship.
On the contrary, cheating is no longer a taboo as of late.People cheat even when they have the perfect partner, people cheat even when they have families, people cheat because they laugh about it on social media but more so heartbreaking is that people cheat because their partners always stay.
So I ask,when did love become an emotion based on convenience? When did love become a feeling that can so easily be phased by lust? When did love become embroiled in societal standards?Why is love in this generation about popularity, goals, financial security and relevance?
What happened to the ride or die kind of love, the Bonnie & Clyde unconditional kind of love? What happened to having soul ties & Solid emotional connections?What happened to solving issues in a relationship come hell or high water?why is cheating the only thing that’s being done impeccably?
The only answer I can give is that the game has changed,keep your guard up or else hope that you have miraculously found “the one”.
-Until then live, laugh & stay alert.
written by Nthabiseng Sekonyela
